Staying happy in a relationship is a challenged faced by many. With contrast in each other’s schedules, priorities, not to mention other people trying to steal your lover away, it becomes imperative to learn what other couples have been doing to stay happy throughout the years.
Dr. Mark Goulston, a known psychiatrist, international motivational speaker, and author of numerous best-selling books, reveals the habits of couples who stay happy in his book 10 Habits of Happy Couples, a book that has been read by over half a million people worldwide.
Consider the following items as a check list. Does your relationship include these habits below?
#1: Going to Bed at the Same Time
No matter how hectic your schedules might be, it is important that you go to bed at the same time. Happy couples resist the temptation of going to bed at different times. But if your work schedules are that of a May-December affair, at least spend the weekend hitting the sack at the same time.
#2: Cultivating Common Interests
Let’s face it, after a few years or just even months being with the same person that long, can get boring sometimes, realizing how few interests you share in common. However, having a few common interests is just a state of mind. If it seems you have very few interests you could both partake, realize that happy couples develop them.
At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own. This will make you more interesting to your partner.
#3: Walking Hand in Hand or Side by Side
Instead of one mate lagging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They realize it’s more important being close with their loved ones rather than seeing the sights along the way.
#4: Making Trust and Forgiveness Your Default Mode
Pride can turn a simple disagreement into an awful argument or debate. When you can hardly meet halfway with delicate matters, it is important to take your pride away. Happy couples turn to trust and forgiveness rather than being disturbing or begrudging.
#5: Focusing on Your Partner’s Good Side Instead of His or Her Shortcomings
We’re only human and as the famous line goes, “to err is human, to forgive is divine.” Happy couples realize that making mistakes is nothing but normal. For most of the things your mate does wrong, for sure you can find more things that he or she does right. Focusing on the positive is key to one’s happiness and to staying happy as a couple.
#6: Hugging as Soon as You See Each Other After Work
Our skin remembers feeling loved with a “good touch,” abused with “bad touch” or neglected with “no touch.” Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
#7: Saying “I Love You” and “Have a Good Day” Every Morning
To some people, this may sound rather cheesy saying these lines every day. But without you realizing it, there is a good effect when one hears these lines – especially from their loved ones. It’s also a good encouragement that people to hear need before they set out each day to battle traffic jams, work troubles and other daily stressors.
#8: Saying “Good Night” Every Night Regardless of How You Feel
In essence, saying “good night” tells your partner that no matter how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It also says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any trouble the world could bring.
#9: Doing a “Weather Check” During the Day
Checking on your partner at work is a great way to remind him or her that you constantly think of that person. Call your mate at work or at home, send a text or chat message during your break. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work.
#10: Being Proud to be Seen with Your Partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together often in some simple yet affectionate contact – hand on hand, or hand on shoulder or knee or nape. You don’t really want a flagrant PDA, you just want to send that message that you’re happy being with each other.
Share this to your partners and stay being happy together! Cheers!
Source: Elite Readers